I haven't forgotten how to give world class cocksucking for hours upon hours, nope ( Read more... )

As I've returned to the poly subreddit recently, I've noticed a lot of what I'll call monogamous refugees showing up for advice.

The typical story is this: We've been together/partnered/married for 7 years. Recently my partner fell in love with somebody else, and came out as poly. I'm trying to be supportive of their new identity, but now that ( Read more... )

Somebody asked this on the poly subreddit, but in the context of being poly, not relationship anarchist. People gave a variety of answers, which is one thing I love about ethical nonmonogamy -- that people have so many different ways of experiencing relationships outside of the monogamy box ( Read more... )

Poly people are generally so much more controlling than relationship anarchists. So many rules and boundaries! So many rules to break and then grief to feel! Mainly they seem to have or want multiple monogamous relationships, with all the implicit mutual slaveries and oxymorons those would entail ( Read more... )

I crashed hard after I got home, and so I'm up early. Thursday before a 3-day holiday weekend. I will stretch and run, and then try to get all caught up on work so I can quit early. And then ... I have no plans, similar to last weekend ( Read more... )

It's been so long since I hosted my own Game Day, but Kent hosted one this afternoon and I had fun! Got to meet some new people and see some old pals ( Read more... )

I saw this more often on the poly subreddit, a subreddit which I eventually tired of, but occasionally I see it on other subreddits about gay relationships. A person entered into a limited relationship, knowing it would be limited, because either the other guy already has a partner, or the other guy is otherwise "too busy for a relationship ( Read more... )

DavidS was suddenly all texting me and all, "you're sexy" and all "Daddy" and ... I'd sort of given up on him ...

but as the Diamond Sutra said, in way too many words,

if you want to care about somebody, you have to not care about them ( Read more... )

Recently I wrote about how as a group gay men have way more sex partners on average than straight people or lesbians.  A couple of you readers pointed out that this is due to a combination of things including higher male sex drive and gay culture being more accepting of open relationships.

But I do encounter gay men who hate the prevalence of open ( Read more... )

I promise to love people and things that are not you ( Read more... )